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A not unusual day in the life of….

The day starts at 6.30 when my alarm goes off.  Get up, come down, sort breakfasts – cup of tea and concerta for child no 1, blueberry muffin and hot chocolate for child number 2. Same every day.  Routine, consistency, sameness.

Breakfasts delivered to their rooms.  No child allowed out of their room until morning grumps have receded. Neither is a morning person, particularly child no 1 until medication kicks in.

Both get dressed in their rooms before the bathroom argument commences.

Sock and pants combo tried and tested for son – Peacocks pants, Sock Shop bamboo socks.  Generally, assume 10 minutes per sock as they must be just so … clothes laid out in advance. Shoes can be a trial – DCs only please.

Daughter will dress herself having been prompted.  And then reminded … but carefully, not forgetting her demand avoidance so subtlety required.  Lots of prompting and walking away.  Lots of smiling through gritted teeth.

Then we have the hair and teeth performance.  Can be hit and miss.  Son takes his toothbrush and toothpaste which he keeps in his room – the only toothpaste he will use – and goes to clean his teeth.  In the meantime, I do her hair.  No brushes allowed – neighbours might think someone was being murdered!  Just lots of conditioner and water spray and hope!   No slides, bobbles etc as can’t tolerate them.  Thankfully the son doesn’t have long hair.

Bags packed and sorted and left by the front door for them to collect on their way to the bus.

And they’re gone

Morning spent on the phone trying to sort out various cockups made by professionals.  Who has time to work?  And a visit to school to go over arrangements for son.

Mid-afternoon- phone call from school.  Daughter having a wobbler.  Currently at point 3 on anxiety/behaviour scale and heading towards stage 4.  Teacher not in school, daughter struggles with social hierarchies so doesn’t always understand her position in relation to LSAs.  She’s higher up the scale than they are … she thinks.  Combined with PDA careful handling required.  ‘Will you speak to her please?’  Currently cracking knuckles, giving off death stares, upsetting other pupils, scratching arms and just generally being difficult.  Spoke to her, brought her back down, tears flowed, apologies proffered and accepted and school bus now able to leave.

McDonald’s as too knackered to cook the usual chicken fillet and chips

And the evening ritual begins….

Shower reminders start at 7pm.  Two hours later he gets in the shower.  Changes into his PJs of choice – Matalan only please.  Then it’s pizza time as his meds have worn off and he’s starving.

While his pizza cooking it’s her bedtime.  Demand avoidance strategies aplenty … suddenly she absolutely must tell me everything about her day in minute detail, a blow by blow, minute by minute account.  Just to avoid bed.  Well-practiced routine.  Subtly ignored and bedtime instruction repeated.  After much faffing, she goes to bed.  And sometimes stays there!

Following pizza, it’s his bedtime … which can take 2 hours. Melatonin administered which helps. We play hunt the mobile then the Hokey Cokey bed game … in and out and so on.

3 to 4 hours after first telling him to shower, he’ll go to bed.

And breathe …….

How we helpOur Programmes

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For Parents

Early bird plus programme

Early Bird Plus is aimed at parents and carers of autistic children aged five and under nine. The programme combines the supportive dynamic of group sessions with the individualised, one-to-one support of home visits*.

The Early Bird Plus programme consists of eight sessions, each of which are 2.5 hours in length, and two home visits*. Programmes are run for up to six families at a time. Each family is allocated three places on the Early Bird programme: two for parents or carers and one for an accompanying professional.

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For Parents

Early bird teen life programme

Teen Life is a six-session programme for parents/carers of young people aged 10 to 16 years on the autism spectrum.

Programmes are run for up to six families at a time. Each family is allocated three places on the Teen Life programme: two for parents or carers and one for an accompanying professional.

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For Parents

Nurture programme: parenting puzzles

The programme is intended to provide adults and children with the understanding, skills and ability to lead emotionally healthy lives, build resilience, empathy, self-esteem and support positive relationships and to inspire positive changes.

The 10-week Nurturing Programme is effective in universal settings and is also used by practitioners to deliver targeted support as part of specialist interventions such as: working with parents in prison, and parents whose children have special needs

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For Parents

Lego based therapy

Lego Based Therapy is a Social development programme for children with ASD and related conditions such as ADHD. It is now used in school settings and is often recommended by professionals as an intervention for children with social communication needs.

We have a 2 week programme to train parents to be able to use Lego Based Therapy at home with their children.

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For Parents

Parent & carer wellbeing programme

Most parents put the needs of their child first.  Parents of children with Additional Needs have even less time and energy to focus on their own physical and mental health & wellbeing.

CBS aim to shine the light on parental mental health and alleviate some of the problems by offering parent led respite activities, specialised counselling and wellbeing workshops, such as, relaxation techniques, yoga and mindfulness addressing stress and anxiety.

Parents’ Guide to the Galaxy – A six week long series of workshops and information sessions to encourage parental self-care and emotional well-being.

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For Parents

Early intervention behaviour programme

This 6-week programme, aimed at parents who have children with behaviour that challenges and have no diagnosis.

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For Parents

The Parent Factor in ADHD

The Parent Factor in ADHD is a 9-week programme for parent carers who have a child diagnosed with ADHD.

The programme starts with a pre-group meeting which allows the group participants to meet with the facilitator. This serves a number of functions, but most importantly it gives parents the opportunity to talk (as much or as little as they wish) about their experiences, including any concerns they may have.

Participants then attend a weekly series of six, two-hour long sessions. Each session has specific aims and is led by a CBS facilitator.

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For Schools and Organisations

Mission Incredible! – Teacher training package

A specialised training package designed to give teachers and teaching assistants key skills and techniques for coping with children with additional needs.

This training package can be tailored to the specific needs of each school.

Schools Programmes are free this year, thanks to external funding. Please contact CBS to discuss your needs. 

For Schools and Organisations

Restorative approach programme – Linking parents and schools

We offer a Restorative Approach Programme, building a bridge between parents with children with additional needs and their schools to support a positive relationship and mutual understanding.

Schools Programmes are free this year, thanks to external funding. Please contact CBS to discuss your needs.